Suggested next step: If you want support tailored to you, start with the 30-Minute Clarity Call.
Common signs
- Discounting achievements.
- Over-preparing to avoid being ‘found out’.
- Fear of evaluation.
- Feeling relief after success instead of satisfaction.
What it protects
It protects you from vulnerability: being seen, being imperfect.
It keeps you working to maintain safety.
What helps
- Collect evidence: keep a ‘facts’ file of feedback and outcomes.
- Practice being seen in small ways: share progress, ask questions.
- Separate worth from performance: you are more than output.
Micro-practice
Before a task, set a ‘good enough’ standard and stop when it’s met.
If you recognise yourself in this, start gently. Change is more sustainable when it is paced and compassionate. If symptoms are persistent, severe, or affecting safety, seeking professional support is appropriate.
Note: This article is educational and supportive. If you’re in crisis or at risk of harm, contact local emergency services.